Thursday, February 24, 2005
Been Done Wrong?
Found this @ Boogie Jack's website
thought it was interesting:
Been Done Wrong?
Has someone done you wrong? It happens to all of us. The thing is, some let go and prosper while others hang on to it indefinitely - and suffer all the more. When we hold a grudge against someone we don't hurt them, we allow them to keep hurting us.
To move on we need to forgive, but not forget!
A favorite saying of mine comes from that venerable fount of wisdom, Gomer Pyle. "Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me." proclaimed Gomer. That's extremely wise.
Forgiving is necessary for us to move on in a healthy and prosperous way, but that doesn't mean we have to make the same mistake with the same person. It doesn't mean giving the house keys to the burglar who got caught robbing you.
Some would say they can't forgive, that they were hurt so deeply that trying to forgive would only dredge up the pain again. They think their stony protective emotional facade is what keeps them from hurting. What they haven't realized is that they've already weathered the pain, what they haven't discovered is life beyond the pain.
Forgive others for your sake, and remember the lessons learned for theirs. Why for their sake? You don't help them by letting them repeat their offenses against you. You help them by forgiving them, but holding them accountable for their past actions.
"The old law about 'an eye for an eye' leaves everybody blind." - Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
thought it was interesting:
Been Done Wrong?
Has someone done you wrong? It happens to all of us. The thing is, some let go and prosper while others hang on to it indefinitely - and suffer all the more. When we hold a grudge against someone we don't hurt them, we allow them to keep hurting us.
To move on we need to forgive, but not forget!
A favorite saying of mine comes from that venerable fount of wisdom, Gomer Pyle. "Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me." proclaimed Gomer. That's extremely wise.
Forgiving is necessary for us to move on in a healthy and prosperous way, but that doesn't mean we have to make the same mistake with the same person. It doesn't mean giving the house keys to the burglar who got caught robbing you.
Some would say they can't forgive, that they were hurt so deeply that trying to forgive would only dredge up the pain again. They think their stony protective emotional facade is what keeps them from hurting. What they haven't realized is that they've already weathered the pain, what they haven't discovered is life beyond the pain.
Forgive others for your sake, and remember the lessons learned for theirs. Why for their sake? You don't help them by letting them repeat their offenses against you. You help them by forgiving them, but holding them accountable for their past actions.
"The old law about 'an eye for an eye' leaves everybody blind." - Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
